I frequently find myself a bit fed up because I finally get something in Tango and then realise that great teachers have been telling me that for years.
Why didn’t I hear them?
The problem – I now realise – is that there is no “finally” in Tango.
Especially with the big concepts – like connection, the embrace, energy, focus and musicality.
I did hear them.
And I am sure I tried to improve. But I was only at the skill level I had, so exactly the same word and even similar sentences of patient explanation – could only be interpreted by my mind according to the experienced and remembered feelings of my body.
It just isn’t possible to understand the depth of these huge concepts using words alone – exactly the same word – “connection” – just has a completely different meaning to a professional than it does for someone like me with not yet 6 years of study.
We think we understand – it is an explainable word – but we don’t. We have to crawl there day by day – and when we make a noticeable improvement we tend to think we have “got it”.
Increasingly I want to travel into the Tango world.
To explore my connections with outstanding people and teachers. To free up my mind.
To be inspired.
This is such a special gift that Tango gives us. An opportunity to expand into an infinite landscape of ideas. To experience something truly special.
Behind that final bell – lies a wealth of talent.
It’s a red pill blue pill thing – isn’t it.
Do you really want to wake up to how much you never knew – how much you took for granted? It certainly isn’t comfortable – it isn’t for everyone.
If you would rather not know the reality -it’s easy – just don’t go.
Stay having fun. Dance.
Don’t shake yourself up. Stay doing what you did last week.
You take the blue pill—the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill—you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.
Me – I’m going Red.
To the very, very best of my ability.
As an intermediate Tango student with 5 years of study it seems like I have already been hearing the concept of Tango conversations for forever.
I guess that for about 2 years now I have been improving my listening skills. Of course – it is critical to learning and I have great teachers. I have also been working a lot recently on focus.
But at my current skill levels it seems all I can create is not a conversation in any meaningful sense – but more like a series of alternate monologues.
I suggest that the follower pauses, they do, I give them time, they do something. I lead them out of that and then I suggest something else – or perhaps they do.
So I do something and then it just endlessly repeats like some demented game of ping pong – until the 12 minutes are up and the TJ calls time out.
I accept that this sounds like a conversation. I speak, you speak, I speak.
But it frustrates me. Real conversations – or at least good ones – evolve as they go. Things said ripple over time and impact the next statements. The conversation reaches a conclusion based on what we actually said. The mood changes. We play and interact.
We react to each other not just because it is “my turn” but based on what the other person just communicated to me. We listen and say something different based on that input.
And that is what I find is so lacking in my intermediate Tango. We all just do what we do when given a welcome chance to create something rather than just shoved about.
I kind of guess at 2 more years. Maybe by then I will find the skill to have an actual conversation that leads somewhere that is new for both of us.
That would be wonderful, playful and creative.