We do this for pleasure. Don’t we?
We go through the mill, play the game, go through so many years of learning, we negotiate embraces, steps, the complexities of the dance floor – and we try to avoid defaults.
We try always to listen and to respond – to not just do what we always do.
We move in a way that is how this music – and this person – makes us feel. To enjoy it.
But when your partner really gets it right – how do you actually communicate that – so they understand and change their dancing to use that knowledge of how you feel?
How – in Tango – do we simply say – “That was great”.
More of that please.
In the moment. So we can build on it – so it makes a difference.
By the end of 9 minutes we should be ready for fireworks – we both understand what the other person enjoys. And of course by exclusion what is average for them.
Sometimes I think we can just smile. If the connection is special for sure a smile will be felt. When there is little noise everything is communicated.
Perhaps a slight embrace change?
What a shame if we don’t work this out. What a blunt experience if neither of us learn what the other enjoys fast enough to offer more – to build on that foundation of understanding of what we enjoy.
We have to show them – in the moment – how – actually – do we do that?